Not a great deal to report - we received an email from Deepika informing us "that our surrogate will be full term (37 weeks) by 29th February, 2012 and the due date is 21st March, 2012. So, the babies can be born on any day between 29th February, 2012 to 21st March, 2012. In regards to the same, we would like to request you to please plan to be in India by 27th February, 2012".
It's quite amazing that back in Decemember when we booked our flights to Delhi, we had booked to depart 25 February. The reason being - we thought it was as good a day as any, plus it would have been my mum's birthday. Anyhow, we are still planning to depart this Saturday and will definitely be in India by 27th February!!! There's every chance also I guess that the babies may be born on 29th February - I guess with twins one birthday every two years is fair enough :)
I really do hope that we won't have too long to wait in Delhi for the birth. We have almost reached the excruciating summit of Mt Waiting, and are simply exhausted by the journey and the continual climb to reach the end. Of course it will all be worth it, but the wait is tough. Put simply, I want these babies now. I have waited long enough in my almost 45 years of life and I do not want to wait another day more, only to wait another day more. I know, it doesn't make sense, but I am over "being ready" and "patient". Perhaps when we are in Delhi, the waiting won't seem quite as bad - maybe I will catch up on the sleep that I am not having now, perhaps I will just treat it as R&R, but more than likely, and quite probably, I will go nuts. Oh, and also drive Jim incredibly nuts.
So, two huge bags have been packed and I am quite happy with everything that we've managed to fit in. It will feel strange getting on that plane to Delhi - we've done it twice before but this time will be very different. Everything in our lives will change from this point forward. Saying our farewells beforehand, knowing that when we see these people again, there will be four of us! It is difficult to express how we are feeling at the moment; we are excited but I think this will really kick in when it all becomes a reality.
Congratulations to all of those who have had some wonderful results and thanks to those who have, and continue to, provide inspirational and encouraging updates.
Krissie & Jim
Tuesday, 21 February 2012
Tuesday, 14 February 2012
34 weeks and an update
We received an unexpected email from SCI last night - a scan of our babies at 34 weeks. It now appears that Martha has picked up her eating habits and is now weighing in at 2092grams & Arthur now is at 2406 grams. All is very well with our surrogate and bubs and of course we are so thankful. We are ready to head to Delhi on 25 February, but it has been mentioned by some fellow surrogate friends that given the size of Arthur & Martha, they may actually arrive a little earlier than us! Not to mention, if I hadn't slept soundly before this point, I ain't going to sleep at all now!
I have been on maternity leave for one week and am really enjoying preparing for the birth of the babies. I am so glad I took the time out to make the transition from "work mode", it's made a huge difference to my stress levels - I'm now stressfully relaxing....
I have to make mention to all the great people we have met through our surrogacy journey - the kind heartedness and comradeship of others going through, been through, about to go through, the journey is heartwarming. We were really fortunate to have met up with a wonderful couple who have just celebrated their triplets' first birthday, born through surrogacy. This meeting has finally brought realism to me, in a big way!
I have been on maternity leave for one week and am really enjoying preparing for the birth of the babies. I am so glad I took the time out to make the transition from "work mode", it's made a huge difference to my stress levels - I'm now stressfully relaxing....
I have to make mention to all the great people we have met through our surrogacy journey - the kind heartedness and comradeship of others going through, been through, about to go through, the journey is heartwarming. We were really fortunate to have met up with a wonderful couple who have just celebrated their triplets' first birthday, born through surrogacy. This meeting has finally brought realism to me, in a big way!
Friday, 3 February 2012
Discrepancy?
Our 32 week scan arrived last night and all is fine, EXCEPT there is a "discrepancy between the twins". Little Martha is weighing in at 1714 grams; Arthur 2142 grams. That's about a pound difference. Whilst Dr Shivani has reviewed the report and found everything fine, except for the discrepancy, it is enough to unsettle us. My anxiety is already at a level that causes me more anxiety; I would consider similar to consuming several energy drinks alternating with triple shot lattes. I think I am a little uptight. Hence the wine.
We aren't sure what to expect with the birth and if in fact, the discrepancy means that an earlier birth may be imminent. Arthur is in breech (typical) position Martha cephalic. Anyhow, we are still planning to fly out on 25 February and be in India for the births. I have decided to work only another week of work then commence annual leave, followed by maternity leave. My work is so all consuming that I really want to have a break, albeit short, to stop thinking about work (constantly) and start thinking about the next phase in my life, being a mother.
So, for now, I remain split between my best friends - my HP tablet and my mobile phone. I am soooo looking forward to breaking it off with them (maybe) when I no longer have to rely on their companionship to receive my late night emails and research.
We aren't sure what to expect with the birth and if in fact, the discrepancy means that an earlier birth may be imminent. Arthur is in breech (typical) position Martha cephalic. Anyhow, we are still planning to fly out on 25 February and be in India for the births. I have decided to work only another week of work then commence annual leave, followed by maternity leave. My work is so all consuming that I really want to have a break, albeit short, to stop thinking about work (constantly) and start thinking about the next phase in my life, being a mother.
So, for now, I remain split between my best friends - my HP tablet and my mobile phone. I am soooo looking forward to breaking it off with them (maybe) when I no longer have to rely on their companionship to receive my late night emails and research.
Friday, 27 January 2012
32 weeks, almost
Almost 32 weeks and we are eagerly awaiting the next scan which is due towards the end of next week. With all of the necessary documentation completed, we are now officially on standby for deployment of evacuation code yellow! This means that we have done as much as humanly possible to prepare, pack, organise, and then re-pack, re-organise and re-check. We are so fortunate that our pregnancy is progressing really well and have decided that we would like to be in Delhi for the birth, if possible. Sounds easy, doesn't it. We will wait to see the details on the next scan and then decide when we will travel. DNA testing has been completed, visas were received within one week of lodging and flights & accommodation booked. I'm over the wait, just get me there. Then perhaps it might feel real?
Although I am now thinking more and more of our babies; it still feels strange to think that we will be a family in a matter of a month or so. I continually go into the nursery, not really looking at anything in particular, but I think just to confirm that it all is happening. It still doesn't feel real; to think that less than one year ago we set out on this trek and here we are today. I've had many trekking adventures, of a different type of course - South America, Borneo, Nepal, Africa. All have been satisfying, particularly when the end is reached and you're able to reflect on the challenges and obstacles overcome during the ordeal. There were many times during each when you wondered why you would put yourself through it, but at the end there always was a sense of euphoria and accomplishment. Only if you had gone through it, would you experience this sensation - explanations don't seem to do these feelings justice. I think that's what it's like with surrogacy and which can only be truly understood by those who are on the same trek as yourself.
On another note, every now & then I have total freak out where I become totally obsessed with finding out something I don't know. While experimenting with my electronic steam steriliser, following the instructions word for word, I was given a demonstration by a friend of mine, a mother of two. It soon become apparent to me that sterilisation in the context of clinical or medical sterilisation which is the only sterilisation I know, is NOT the same as sterilising soothers on your kitchen bench. Anyway, after much frustrated discussion, I gave up. The soothers do not need to be sterilised according to the national health standards to counteract an outbreak of infectious disease. I have since learnt that I need to get out more on weekends.
I will be starting to pack our bags this coming weekend, so will def be referring to some blogs to help out. Nothing like organising and re-organising to pass the time. I will update details next week of Arthur & Martha when the scans are received.
Although I am now thinking more and more of our babies; it still feels strange to think that we will be a family in a matter of a month or so. I continually go into the nursery, not really looking at anything in particular, but I think just to confirm that it all is happening. It still doesn't feel real; to think that less than one year ago we set out on this trek and here we are today. I've had many trekking adventures, of a different type of course - South America, Borneo, Nepal, Africa. All have been satisfying, particularly when the end is reached and you're able to reflect on the challenges and obstacles overcome during the ordeal. There were many times during each when you wondered why you would put yourself through it, but at the end there always was a sense of euphoria and accomplishment. Only if you had gone through it, would you experience this sensation - explanations don't seem to do these feelings justice. I think that's what it's like with surrogacy and which can only be truly understood by those who are on the same trek as yourself.
On another note, every now & then I have total freak out where I become totally obsessed with finding out something I don't know. While experimenting with my electronic steam steriliser, following the instructions word for word, I was given a demonstration by a friend of mine, a mother of two. It soon become apparent to me that sterilisation in the context of clinical or medical sterilisation which is the only sterilisation I know, is NOT the same as sterilising soothers on your kitchen bench. Anyway, after much frustrated discussion, I gave up. The soothers do not need to be sterilised according to the national health standards to counteract an outbreak of infectious disease. I have since learnt that I need to get out more on weekends.
I will be starting to pack our bags this coming weekend, so will def be referring to some blogs to help out. Nothing like organising and re-organising to pass the time. I will update details next week of Arthur & Martha when the scans are received.
Friday, 13 January 2012
Just for something cute....
Ok, it's not a baby, but it's pretty damn cute! Woke up and found him (or her) in our Jacaranda tree in our backyard.... the cats were terrified to say the least...
Wednesday, 11 January 2012
The Wall
Lo and behold. Our scan last week revealed that our baby twins are growing fat and happy. What a relief it was to quell my irrational fears. The babies are still there, they haven't performed a vanishing act and disappeared into thin air, nor have they been abducted by some kind of infertile alien. No, there they are, sitting on their bottoms taking it all in. (Mmmmm, let's hope that's not a sign of things to come!).
They are now 29 weeks, or 7 months, or birth minus approx 7 weeks. I'm as prepared as I can practically be; however, the emotions that ensued I could not prepare for. Xmas Day was the milestone for me - that was the date that I wanted to reach because Arthur & Martha would be at the 7 month mark and it then all "becomes real". Well, from Xmas Day, can I tell you, hellllooooo emotions! And why? Because my "wall" is crumbling. It's crumbling, because it can; my dependency on this barricade that has taken me years to build as a self protection measure is falling apart. I no longer have to hide behind it when I'm faced with a situation I don't want to be in, but have to be, involving children, ie other people's children. The wall is crumbling, almost piece by piece, and my emotions are opening up and leaking through. In other words, I am a bumbling mess. But I am relieved; relieved at the fact that I will soon no longer need the wall.
On another note, our visas arrived today which took less than one week to process. Flights have been arranged, accommodation booked, maternity leave confirmed, nursery established. Now all we have to do is wait......... I do agree with Suzie though, the time is FLYING and has gone so quickly. This time last year, our area was hard hit with devastating floods; we had just returned from a trip to the UK and were unable to return to work as we couldn't get out of our street. To think that so much has happened in the course of a year...to think so much will change in the matter of weeks..... yikes and yippee
Christmas was lovely; we received many lovely gifts from our family for the babies, particularly two beautiful mobiles that have been imported from Asia. They are a type of paper mache - one with brightly coloured birds, the other with elephants. They will be treasured forever.
For those starting out on their journey, I truly hope 2012 will be a wonderful year for you. It has taken us a lot of years and heartache to get there, but it certainly looks like 2012 will be the wonderful year we have been seeking for so long.
They are now 29 weeks, or 7 months, or birth minus approx 7 weeks. I'm as prepared as I can practically be; however, the emotions that ensued I could not prepare for. Xmas Day was the milestone for me - that was the date that I wanted to reach because Arthur & Martha would be at the 7 month mark and it then all "becomes real". Well, from Xmas Day, can I tell you, hellllooooo emotions! And why? Because my "wall" is crumbling. It's crumbling, because it can; my dependency on this barricade that has taken me years to build as a self protection measure is falling apart. I no longer have to hide behind it when I'm faced with a situation I don't want to be in, but have to be, involving children, ie other people's children. The wall is crumbling, almost piece by piece, and my emotions are opening up and leaking through. In other words, I am a bumbling mess. But I am relieved; relieved at the fact that I will soon no longer need the wall.
On another note, our visas arrived today which took less than one week to process. Flights have been arranged, accommodation booked, maternity leave confirmed, nursery established. Now all we have to do is wait......... I do agree with Suzie though, the time is FLYING and has gone so quickly. This time last year, our area was hard hit with devastating floods; we had just returned from a trip to the UK and were unable to return to work as we couldn't get out of our street. To think that so much has happened in the course of a year...to think so much will change in the matter of weeks..... yikes and yippee
Christmas was lovely; we received many lovely gifts from our family for the babies, particularly two beautiful mobiles that have been imported from Asia. They are a type of paper mache - one with brightly coloured birds, the other with elephants. They will be treasured forever.
For those starting out on their journey, I truly hope 2012 will be a wonderful year for you. It has taken us a lot of years and heartache to get there, but it certainly looks like 2012 will be the wonderful year we have been seeking for so long.
Thursday, 22 December 2011
You are so brave......
A number of my work colleagues have said this phrase to me, not because I have just explained our surrogacy situation, but because I decided to go all out and get my hair chopped off. With tongue in cheek, my response has been "if you call this brave, we're having twins in India". I do love my new hair cut, but I love even more the fact that we are now just over the 27 week mark. Eveyone has been so supportive and my work friends are continually coming up with the positives of going through surrogacy. I really don't work with a bunch of alcholics, but the fact that I can still drink alcohol whilst pregnant continues to be at the top of the list, followed closely by the lack of stretch marks.
Whilst Arthur & Martha continue to grow, the time is ticking by, slowly. I would say that with monthly updates, sometimes it is easy to "forget" for a minute that we will be parents very soon. In saying that, I'm prepared - the spare room has been converted to a nursery, in the sense that it is FULL of baby gear which I have picked up at sales. I haven't organised the nursery, everything is still packed up, but at least I know it's there. I am pleased to say that I have not made a purchase of an item at full price & most of the purchases have been online.
I have, on two occasions, visited a baby shop where very young (ok a fair bit younger than me which really doesn't make them that young) and very pregnant (and not as pregnant as me, but of course I'm not showing) walk around rubbing their bellies. When asked by a fellow elderly gentleman who was shopping in this particular shop, if we were looking at baby stuff for our daughter as he was for his (and I might add he looked 20 years older than me) I simply did not have a response. I just needed to escape, which we did. In hindsight, there was no ill intent, I think it was just the shock of it for me, and I just wasn't prepared for it. I should have taken the time to explain, which I have since to people who have heard something babyish is happening for us and there expectations have been that we are about to become grandparents. Oh well, it's all part of the journey and there are many things you just can't prepare yourself for.
When we found out we were successful with this surrogacy, I never thought I would be able to make it to Xmas. It seemed so far away and my thoughts were that surely, if I did make it to Xmas, I would just be beside myself with wonderful thoughts of impending motherhood. Well, we did make it to Xmas and we are so looking forward to parenthood, but there is also an element of it all being very surreal. I think it will only feel "real" when we hold our babies for the first time, maybe not even then, maybe holding them for the second time. My god, what if I won't be able to stop holding them because I cannot believe that they're mine! I cannot even imagine what it will feel like to hold my baby/ies, probably because I have never allowed myself to really think about it in the past, as it was just never going to be.
But it is going to be. And there are simply no words to adequately thank our surrogate and Dr Shivani and her team, for making this happen. It is going to happen, after years of sadness, after months of doubt and pessimism, this will be our last Xmas as a couple. We are going to have a family. There, I've said it and I now believe it. Finally.
Merry Xmas to all and may 2012 bring you much happiness and hope.
Whilst Arthur & Martha continue to grow, the time is ticking by, slowly. I would say that with monthly updates, sometimes it is easy to "forget" for a minute that we will be parents very soon. In saying that, I'm prepared - the spare room has been converted to a nursery, in the sense that it is FULL of baby gear which I have picked up at sales. I haven't organised the nursery, everything is still packed up, but at least I know it's there. I am pleased to say that I have not made a purchase of an item at full price & most of the purchases have been online.
I have, on two occasions, visited a baby shop where very young (ok a fair bit younger than me which really doesn't make them that young) and very pregnant (and not as pregnant as me, but of course I'm not showing) walk around rubbing their bellies. When asked by a fellow elderly gentleman who was shopping in this particular shop, if we were looking at baby stuff for our daughter as he was for his (and I might add he looked 20 years older than me) I simply did not have a response. I just needed to escape, which we did. In hindsight, there was no ill intent, I think it was just the shock of it for me, and I just wasn't prepared for it. I should have taken the time to explain, which I have since to people who have heard something babyish is happening for us and there expectations have been that we are about to become grandparents. Oh well, it's all part of the journey and there are many things you just can't prepare yourself for.
When we found out we were successful with this surrogacy, I never thought I would be able to make it to Xmas. It seemed so far away and my thoughts were that surely, if I did make it to Xmas, I would just be beside myself with wonderful thoughts of impending motherhood. Well, we did make it to Xmas and we are so looking forward to parenthood, but there is also an element of it all being very surreal. I think it will only feel "real" when we hold our babies for the first time, maybe not even then, maybe holding them for the second time. My god, what if I won't be able to stop holding them because I cannot believe that they're mine! I cannot even imagine what it will feel like to hold my baby/ies, probably because I have never allowed myself to really think about it in the past, as it was just never going to be.
But it is going to be. And there are simply no words to adequately thank our surrogate and Dr Shivani and her team, for making this happen. It is going to happen, after years of sadness, after months of doubt and pessimism, this will be our last Xmas as a couple. We are going to have a family. There, I've said it and I now believe it. Finally.
Merry Xmas to all and may 2012 bring you much happiness and hope.
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