Well, today marks the nine week mark and unbelievably, the time has gone quickly. All is well with our two surrogate mothers and the secrets they are carrying for us with heartbeats and growth all being normal. In the background, we are trying to carry on as per normal, as normal as can be, however this is becoming increasingly more difficult. More difficult than I thought actually. Whilst we are cautiously excited and optimistic, it is really hard to maintain normality at work, particularly with my boss. Plans for next year, budgeting, resources, staffing - discussions are all taking place now. A part of me does not want to mention anything to my boss as it's far too early, but I'm caught somewhere between loyalty and rationality. It would make it so much easier for my employer to know the details NOW, for financial reasons, but I can't. There are times when I feel like blurting it out, but how would it sound without any thought given to my words "Richard, I'm expecting but I'm not pregnant and I will need to take either maternity or adoption leave early next year to pick up some babies from India". mmmm, I think I will hold off a little longer....it's too hard to think about at the moment!
We have told close family members, all of whom are very happy for us. We have been in the process of consolidating our cars and of course, thought has been given to an extended family and the carrying capacity of a new vehicle. It is quite funny to see the expression on the faces of strangers, when we mention why we may need a large vehicle. They are cautious and you can literally hear their thoughts "did they say grandchildren??".Whilst I'm 44, Jim has turned the big 50, but at long last, we have found our purpose in life. Ok, we've said it, we've actually told people who we don't know what we are doing. It's actually quite fun.... but I'm sure it's going to be a whole lot different when it comes to work.....
On reading blogs by Dr Shivani's clients, I feel privileged to be a part of this exclusive minority group who are all sharing the same journey. It is a pretty special group. On the baby front, scans are due again next Monday; I have never looked forward to the end of a weekend so much before!
Just found your blog! We returned from Delhi last week and I'll be returning to work next week. I let everyone know that we were going to "vacation" in Delhi, but nobody is privy to the real reason we traveled. Right now we are in our 2ww. Looking forward to following your story. Best wishes to you!
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ReplyDeleteI just found your blog, my husband and I are also Dr. Shivani's clients. Congratulations on your pregnancies!!
I too was scared to tell work...and everyone else for that matter. We are 26 weeks along and truthfully we haven't had any negative comments. A few (ok a lot) strange looks when I tell people we are expecting twins while I am drinking a beer...but that is to be expected.
Everyone at work was great, obviously a little confused at first because I waited until 18 weeks to tell them.
We "practiced" telling random strangers first, so that we were prepared with the typical questions.
Good luck sharing your incredible news!
Stacey
without having even started my boss at work is planning my adoption leave as we cant take maternity and i have to carry her along because i wil be needing her. i think its ok to talk about it hoenstly to those that amtter of course. best wishes
ReplyDeleteLet me know how the 'talk' with your employers go!. We're headed to Delhi this week and hope to be in a similar situation as yourselves very very soon!
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